Monday, January 25, 2010

Top Three cutest girls.. try beating this list..

The Top Three cutest girls

First: My Niece Shailja. She is absolutely adorable.




Second: My Imaginary Girlfriend. Have to keep her second on the list or have chances of revolt if and when i do find one. :)




A Joint Third:

Genelia D'souza. MAN!! she is cute

Katrina Kaif. Dayum!!!



Thursday, January 21, 2010

want to know your limits?? Compete against yourself not with others…

A very prominent set of questions that I am asking myself these days: “what is my limit? How far can I stretch myself? How much can I take before I break?

I think it’s a very important question to ask yourself. And what is more important is to find the answer to it. Find the answer not verbally, but practically, physically and emotionally.

Very often I feel I live in my comfort zone and have established a very comfortable extreme limit for me which only allows my mind and body to tax itself upto the level where its easy to give up. I know this to be true of many others as well, and that’s why we all are called under-achievers. I would think there are only 2-3% people in the world who really test the limits of their mind and body. Infact, they believe there are no boundaries to strengths and capabilities of their mind and/or body. And those truly are the people who stand out in life. They might not all be successful well known people, but they are the people who have dared to test their mind and body to the extreme limits, and known what the human mind/body is actually capable of achieving.

The difference between us and them is only the fact that we have never tried to check our limits. I think we are afraid of finding out what we are capable of because then it would raise the benchmark that much higher for the rest of your life.

And secondly, most of us set our limits to only a little higher than the highest limit set by the people around us. We benchmark our limits against others, instead of challenging them against our own limits.

Think about it: if you are into jogging/running on a track or treadmill, when you started, you could barely manage 1 full mile of running. But as a month goes by, you tend to build up some good stamina and have started testing 1.5 miles, so now the new benchmark every time u go to the gym or club is 1.5 miles. Within 8 months you are running a good 5 miles everyday, which sets your new limit at that? But is that actually the true and final limit that your body can take?? You would like to make yourself believe that because beyond that you seem to lose the sense of achievement or have already surpassed the limits of all those around you. So there is nothing more to brag about in front of friends and gfs/bfs, and you let your limit float around. If infact you were competing against yourself, at 5 miles, you are then trying to compete and better those 5 miles/day record. This will only push u further to get to 6 miles because u want to beat those 5 miles.

There is a fantastic by-product of competing against yourself which in turns makes you a much better person.

When you are competing against others, and you win, there is a sense of achievement and ARROGANCE that starts setting in when you realize you are much better than your peers. However, when you are constantly competing against yourself, and you keep winning, you are not doing that to show your superiority over the others, you are doing it for yourself, and so you don’t realize when you have started over-performing. You don’t tend to show-off, or show the other guys down. Your natural instinct is not to compare with others, and so you are never arrogant in your approach with others.

The best sportsmen in the world, Michael Phelps, Roger Federer, Tiger Woods (his sporting credentials are absolutely unparalleled and cannot be taken away because of his scandalous character) and many more have been what they have been because they always tried to compete with themselves and improve themselves. If Tiger Woods would have been happy being better than the best of the others, he would have been just another golfer who more often than the rest. But Tiger Woods is Tiger Woods because at his age he didn’t stop testing his limits. All great men, have been great because they set their benchmarks against themselves and not their peers. They all tried to test their limits of enduring physical, mental and emotional onslaught.

That’s what separates the good, from the GREAT.

I know I have made my choice to atleast try.

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Crash and Burn AGAIN..

the dayum laptop crashed and gave up on me AGAIN..
i didnt realize i was so annoying that i could make even a laptop give up on me so many times in such a short time.
so a simple post which i came across through a friend and found it quite funny. enjoy.

The Monkey Rule

Start with a cage containing five monkeys. Inside the cage, hang a banana on a string and place a set of stairs under it.
Before long, a monkey will go to the stairs and start to climb towards the banana. As soon as he touches the stairs, spray all of the other monkeys withcold water.

After a while, another monkey makes an attempt with the same result all the other monkeys are sprayed with cold water.
Pretty soon, when another monkey tries to climb the stairs, the other monkeys will try to prevent it.

Now, put away the cold water. Remove one monkey from the cage and replace it with a new one.
The new monkey sees the banana and wants to climb the stairs. To his surprise and horror, all of the other monkeys attack him.
After another attempt and attack, he knows that if he tries to climb the stairs, he will be assaulted.

Next, remove another of the original five monkeys and replace it with a new one. The newcomer goes to the stairs and is attacked.
The previous newcomer takes part in the punishment with enthusiasm! Likewise, replace a third original monkey with a new one, then a fourth, then the fifth. Every time the newest monkey takes to the stairs, he is attacked.

Most of the monkeys that are beating him have no idea why they were not permitted to climb the stairs or why they are participating in the beating of the newest monkey.

After replacing all the original monkeys, none of the remaining monkeys have ever been sprayed with cold water. Nevertheless,
no monkey ever again approaches the stairs to try for the banana. Why not? Because as far as they know that's the way it's always been done around here.

And that, my friends, is how a company policy begins.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

women and drive dont always mix.. ;)

Note: Folks, please read this in the lightest possible sense, and please don’t start judging me. Its all in good fun. Lol

What is it with women and multi-tasking when it comes to driving?

With all due respect to Danica Patrick, we have to accept that universally, men are better drivers then women. I know it’s a very very sexist thing to say, and I can already see a black Honda Jazz, a green Honda CRV, and a possible Laura running at hi-speed towards me to run me over for what I am about to say.

Let me start by saying that I have the highest respect for women and what they accomplish in the professional as well as domestic life. But along the same lines, lets be realistic in accepting that women are lousy at driving just like men are lousy about anything to do with cleanliness (Yes, like everything else there are exceptions in this case as well).

The important aspect here is that logic says, when you know your limitations or handicap, then you try to be extra careful while doing that activity, right?? WRONG. Wrong for two major assumptions in that statement.

One, the biggest assumption is about “Logic”. When it comes to women/girls, most guys will agree that normal regular logic doesn’t work at all. The definition of logic as defined by men and women is very different. And since women make up atleast or close to half the population, the definition of “logic” can be challenged or debated. We all know who would come out on top when there is a debate between a guy and a girl. So that’s an open n shut case.

Two, that we are assuming that women consider their driving as their limitation/handicap. They still believe that they are much better drivers than men are. So when you do not realize or are willing to accept your limitations, how can you work at improving at it??? Don’t try telling your wife or girlfriend that her driving is bad, she’d beat you up with a baseball bat like no one ever did.

So imagine my amusement when I see a woman driver in front of me at Nehrunagar circle (one of the busiest round-abouts in ahmedabad) having a phone in one hand, her car signal showing she wants to turn left, but her car is drifting right at the slowest speed possible, and then puts down her phone, uses the same hand to run her fingers through her hair to adjust her hair, but still confused/misguided and eventually going straight, with her car signal still showing left.

There were people honking at her from all directions, but it made no difference to her, and I was absolutely enjoying every bit of the short amusement I was getting out of the whole scene as it unfolded.

The fun doesn’t stop at that, as she goes ahead, I end up having to follow her car because she is driving in such a way that I cant go past her. Just as we approach the Hanuman temple, as the traffic slows down because of the speed-breakers, our protagonist of this small incident suddenly gets self-conscious about her looks. She realizes that she needs to check on her make-up or whatever it is that she wanted to check and so while moving along at her own pace, she twists the rear view mirror in her direction and is now peeking across at the mirror to make sure her make-up is ok. With all this happening, she somehow jams her foot onto the brake and a bike that is in front of me and following closely behind her bumps into her rear bumper. What would have followed after that is for anybody to guess. With a woman in distress because of a guy on a bike bumping into the car brings out the brotherly love for the lady among all the men surrounding the scene. The poor bike fellow must have got the preaching of his life and our lady protagonist must have got the sympathies of all involved at the scene. (I don’t know for sure, because I didn’t stick around to enjoy the hoopla)

So men, please keep this in mind when driving: when driving, do not expect a woman driver anywhere in your vicinity to do the most logical thing. Expect the most unexpected move from her. That golden rule “might” keep you safe.

I know I am wicked. I am evil. But in my defense, this wouldn’t happen if for once women start accepting that while they are good at multi-tasking, that ability needs to be put aside when they are driving.

That would be their biggest and greatest contribution to world peace.

P.S – the incident happened earlier, but got down to writing about it last nite.

Sunday, January 10, 2010

my personal revolt... against "ME"

Have you ever had a feeling that life is rushing you by???

That you don’t get enough time to reflect on your own needs and passions, but are only running around finishing regular day-to-day chores??

The weekdays are so hectic that you never know when the weekend has come around, and then there is so much to do on the weekends (social and domestic) that before you realize it, you are staring at the sun come up on a Monday morning and you are back to the start of the week.

Peace-of-mind is a precious commodity these days. Solitude is an even harder thing to find (especially in India, where you are always surrounded by people).

With all the travelling, fire-fighting, partying, drinking, eating-out and what-nots, it’s a never ending race from one place to the other, one thing to the other, I think I need a week’s break from all that. I want to enjoy a good long weekend doing “nothing”. “Doing Nothing” - the thought itself is orgasmic.

I could sit all day Sunday, do nothing expect play golf for 3 hours. That would be a fantastic day. Read a book, sift through the new HBR, write something, listen to music, play with Angel, and enjoy the evening breeze from the luxury of my garden at home. Just fantasizing about it feels so wonderful.

I love what I do. I am as passionate or maybe more passionate than most people when it comes to the work that I do. So I don’t regret having to get up on Monday morning to get back to office. Infact I look forward to that on a Sunday. But that doesn’t mean I feel fulfilled with the rest of my life.

There cannot be a single dimension to anybody’s life, definitely not mine. My passion to achieve something in my professional life satisfies one aspect of my urge, but there are others that I urge for to be satisfied, and somehow I get too obsessed with the first urge that I do not find myself the time to satisfy the others. I would think this would be the case with a whole lot of more people than just me. And please do not interpret the word ‘urge’ in a sexual way, an urge can be for something as simple as an ice-cream, to something as complicated as wanting to change a capitalist society to a socialist society.

Writing a blog or writing anything at all is my way of revolting against myself. For me to say, I am going to pull time out to write something, even if it doesn’t make sense, even if its just an image of calvin and hobbes that I put up on the blog. But its about telling myself to spend that half hour on a regular basis on something other than my first passion.

I somehow have found me a different passion lately that takes up a good portion of my time. If I follow that passion through of not, only time will tell.

I think each one of us needs to revolt against ourselves and pull that time out for the other secondary passion in each one’s life. It can be travelling, reading, writing, playing a sport, playing a musical instrument, or something as simple as listening to music. The human mind cannot be fulfilled by just one passion, it needs to be fed with a lot more to be able to take all the up and downs that life throws at you.

Go out there and distract yourself from the daily chores, and give your passion a chance to blossom.

Life is too freaking short. Don’t let it rush past you.

I know I wont.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

neck-tie..

hahahhaa, try to beat that..


Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Hard earned privileges..



i feel like this quite a few times..

Monday, January 4, 2010

2010 Resolution Updates

Resolution 1: Stop drinking alcohol for 4-5 months from 1st January 2010.
Update: Had 4 pegs of Black Dog on 3rd January 2010. New date for start of resolution moved to 1st April 2010.

Resolution 2: Wake up at 7:30 every morning from 1st January 2010.
Update: 1st January: 11:30 am
2nd January: 10:00 am
3rd January: 9:30 am
4th January: 9:30 am

Resolution 3: Reduce eating outside food to once a week starting 1st January 2010 except when travelling.
Update: Have been in Ahmedabad since 1st January, and still have not had a home cooked meal.

Resolution 4: Work-out at the gym atleast 2-3 times a week
Update: Unless I set up a gym at the Baroda works, that one has as much a chance of happening as an elephant has of flying.

Resolution 5: Find me a girlfriend ;-)
Update: God called up last night to tell me He has His limitations with miracles of the extreme kind.

More, when I have some more updates.. and if these resolutions get replaced by new ones.

Friday, January 1, 2010

Missed Assignments...

I was at the (golf) driving range late today evening trying to brush up on my drive and iron shots on the first day of the year. However, a very unfortunate incident took place at the driving range that disturbed all of us who were practicing at the driving range.
A golf ball hit some worker who was working more than 200 meters away from the hitting area. The golf ball hit the worker in the eye and the poor guy might end up losing his left eye. Each of us were hitting our shots, and we don’t know whose shot hit the poor fellow. I hope to god he doesn’t lose his eye, and we are hoping he will be fine.

The driving range is covered by a netting on all sides upto a height of about 30 meters. The length of the ground is around 200 meters and the width would be around 50-70 meters. So you can hit straight upto 200 meters and the ball would still remain within the ground. The worker was working at the furthest left corner beyond the nets (that is a good 200+ meters away).

While everyone felt sorry for the kid, there was a much deeper thought that ran through my mind which I still couldn’t get out of my head and so I am writing to share it with you. Please help me make sense out of this.

We were told that there must have been a gap left in the joints of the netting through which the ball precisely sneaked out of the netting and hit the worker straight on. You can call it a freakish incident. Something that is possible only in the rarest or rare cases. But the fact is, it did happen.

Whose mistake was it that the worker might lose his eyes?

Do you blame the worker for not being careful?

Do you blame the player whose ball hit the worker?

Why would you blame the worker or the player? Those two were doing what they were supposed to be doing presuming that others had done their job properly.
Both the player and the worker presumed that the people who had tightened the nettings and put it up had done their job the way they were supposed to set it up, so both the players and workers went about doing what they were supposed to be doing.

It was the people who put the netting up and who are supposed to check on the fitting who didn’t do their job and a poor young guy might lose his eye. Not directly related to the events of today evening, those fitting guys + inspection persons lack of commitment to their job is what has led to someone fighting for their vision. Some guy’s laziness and laid back “Chalta hai” attitude in doing his job will cause a young guy to lose vision for no fault of his.

What was the workers fault?
Life isn’t freaking fair. This guy is sitting in a hospital wondering what he did to deserve this, while the guys who put up the netting have no freaking idea what their chalta hai attitude has done to this fellow. Just because some fellow must have got tired or wanted to leave early he must have let a seam open in the netting and taken off. He never considered the implications. He missed his assignment.

We all need to come to the realization that our actions or lack of actions have implications that go beyond financial gains or losses. We in India, have very little value of life or human beings and so we are never too serious about safety issues. We allow school rickshaws to be filled with 8-10 kids when they can take only 4-5. We allow our trucks and trailors to be overloaded because we want to save money on transportation cost. But we don’t consider what if that same trailor overturns or rams into a vehicle killing human beings.

Till our country starts taking human life seriously, such incidents and a lot worse will keep happening because we are selfishly and financially driven.

I can list a lot of incidents where the selfishness or financial considerations of individuals have cost many a lives, but this blog isn’t about listing such events, its about missed assignments.

Lets not miss our assignments. We need to concentrate on the things that we do each day. We all have a lot of people’s responsibility on each of our shoulders, how can we let them down.

Ratan Tata, a man ahead of his time

Nicely written, about a man who in his own non-flamboyant manner is an icon in himself. He is a role model. What a man!!!


Ratan Tata, a man ahead of his time
T Surendar/ Forbes India

'To underwrite your loans, we want a say in your company.' That was the gist of what the British government told Ratan Tata when he knocked on their doors early this year in a desperate bid to bail his companies out. Tata had bought two ailing British firms, steel-maker Corus and automobile company Jaguar Land Rover, borrowing a lot of money and was caught in the financial blizzard that hit the world economy late last year.

Not a stranger to tough situations, when 2009 dawned, it was like the morning after a disaster for Tata, 71, who heads the philanthropic trust that controls India's biggest business empire, the Tata Group.

In November 2008, terrorists had ravaged the Tata group's iconic Taj Mahal Hotel across the Gateway of India killing people and damaging the century old building severely. Tata, who studied structural engineering and had immersed himself in renovating the hotel a few years earlier, was distraught.

Around the same time, the global crisis caused financial markets to rapidly tumble. Tata, who was until then hailed as hero for putting India on the global map, seemed to have committed big blunders.

"Ratan was so busy those days that there wasn't even time to ask if he was stressed," says a close business associate who did not wish to be named for this article. "He had taken it upon himself to prove that he had made the right move."
For people working in his office, he was simply not reachable. For weeks on end, Tata would fly to the UK and US to personally negotiate financial matters.
After months of sparring with the British government and its business secretary Peter Mandelson, Tata managed the impossible. He quietly paid off the $3 billion expensive loan Tata Motors had raised for the Jaguar acquisition and replaced them with cheaper loans from banks, some guaranteed by the British government. This, without giving away anything the British government wanted.

"He pulled off the Indica. He pulled off the Nano. Yet we were surprised when he raised $3 billion in such a bad market," says a Mumbai-based merchant banking executive who has worked closely with the Tata group companies. "He has shown that he won't be pushed over if his deal is fair."

But Tata is making it to the Forbes People of the Year list not for solving a $3 billion problem. He is here because, in a very difficult year, he has had the courage and conviction to lead from the front to not just put the house in order but also push the pedal on newer areas of growth for the group.

Tata launched the Nano this year, jointly launched new telecom services with Japanese firm DoCoMO and even launched a low-priced water filter to address the drinking water problem of the under privileged.

"We were surprised when he accepted to cut the ribbon to launch a water purifier," says the close associate. Tata is shy about public functions and prefers to stay away from them.

A couple of things about the water filter attracted Tata. Here was a product that came close to his definition of an innovation for the bottom-of-the-pyramid audience. In recent years, Tata has been looking for ways to make low cost cars to air conditioners to make his products more affordable. He is said to have told his ebullient managers: "Even this price (Rs. 999) must be bought down. It's too much for most Indians."

What are the lessons that stand out for business from the way Tata handled what seemed a crisis for the group? "Since he has already fixed his destination and doesn't waver, Tata never considers anything a crisis. Instead, he chooses to think of them of a situation and starts solving it," the associate says.
To people who know Tata, it is no surprise. When he took over the group in the early 1990s, the Tatas were still one of the most respected business groups in the country. But they used to think local. Now the group has become synonymous with global large scale operations.

One of the documents that still plays heavily on the way Tata thinks is a strategy document he wrote in 1983. Sitting by the side of his ailing mother in the hospital, Tata is said to have penned his first document detailing the areas in which the group should venture. Apart from passenger cars and information technology, Tata, even at that time had envisioned that companies that harness the power of the youth of the country will be the ones that will eventually make the cut.

Even as Tata was strategising with managers of Tata Steel that bought UK-based Corus to cut costs without paring jobs, he was pushing his trusts to invest more in training youth. He was ensuring the group's future leaders were younger than his generation, to allow them room to grow big. Now, several of his companies sport CEOs in their early 40s. He is doing this as he is vetting candidates from across the world to succeed him in the next couple of years.

Tata has shown that if taking risky decisions need spunk, carrying them through requires more. More often than not, being a visionary, his ideas and decisions see far ahead in time and there are few who understand them when they are first thought of. R Gopalakrishnan, executive director, Tata Sons, says "We have thinking about water for several years but when you fit in the bottom-of-the-pyramid matrix, we had an innovation."

The effects of Tata's labour will not be visible soon. It took nearly a decade to prove that the country's truck maker can also make cars. It took more than five years before his company could produce the $2000 car. When the current storm blows over and time passes by, this year's effort by Tata is sure to leave an indelible mark on the group and its fortunes. A positive one at that.

A song and its meaning..

A couple of months back, me and a (girl)friend (not a girlfriend)were listening to the song “agar tum mil jao, zamana chhod denge hum” while on a drive someplace and when out of the blues she came up with a question. She was reflecting on the lyrics of the song and asked a very generic question: “Can such a thing happen in real life? Can you love someone so much that you let go of everything else?”

At the time, in my blunt very rational style I said “NO. absolutely not.”
But, since then I seem to have doubts about the answer I gave her then. Incidents and events in day to day life have made me start wondering that maybe, just maybe, such things or such love does exist out there.

Its not that I used to look for such incidents before and couldnt find them and so I said No at the time. Its just that before she asked me that question I had never thought about the possibilities of such an occurrence.

Every week there is some or the other story about couples committing suicides because their parents or communities did not allow their marriage. These people gave up their lives because they believed they would be willing to let go of the world and this life for each other. There are stories and incidents all over the place where unconditional love makes people take extreme steps in their life. And these incidents are not just with youngsters, they happen with grown-ups as well.

But I don’t think she was talking about such high level of fanaticism/obsession when she asked me the question. I think it was more a question in normal relationships where you are so much in love, that not much matters expect that person. Where your mind and your heart are prisoners to the thoughts of that one person.

Is it unreal to expect that kind of love from someone? Or is it abnormal to love someone that much?

Ask me that question 10 different times and 9 times out of 10 my answer would come in a split second. YES its unreal, and YES its abnormal. But that one time when I might have a different answer is what is the difference between “impossible” and “remotely probable”. It defines that despite all the rationality, analytical and erratic people like me still try to expect that kind of an involved relationship. Its that 10% chance (am being analytical again) that drives people like me crazy to think that there is such a possibility.

I would love to love someone like that. Maybe I already do. But I have no idea about it. Or I don’t even know how to express it because I think too darn much. Because I am too darn analytical.

Is it really worth being so analytical and rationale?

Isnt life more beautiful and interesting when you are a little insane to be falling for someone like that? Doing crazy things because you feel like doing them. Not worried about what the world would say or who would judge them, because eventually what matters is YOUR happiness.

Or are there too many pains associated with being so close to someone?

I don’t know. I don’t claim to know the answer. But what I do know is that, there is definitely a possibility of enjoying a relationship where either or both of you is singing “agar tum mil jao, zamana chhod denge him. Tumhe pakar zamane bhar se rishta tod denge hum”

Take it from me. Its no fun to be too critical, analytical and rational. Just let yourself flow and fight it out for that kind of love.

And all those already involved in a relationship but are going through difficult times in that relationship, in-fact, even if you arnt going through difficult times, please remember:

You don’t leave alone the people you love. You fight for them.

So if you have someone you love, go out there and fight for them.