A song and its meaning..

A couple of months back, me and a (girl)friend (not a girlfriend)were listening to the song “agar tum mil jao, zamana chhod denge hum” while on a drive someplace and when out of the blues she came up with a question. She was reflecting on the lyrics of the song and asked a very generic question: “Can such a thing happen in real life? Can you love someone so much that you let go of everything else?”

At the time, in my blunt very rational style I said “NO. absolutely not.”
But, since then I seem to have doubts about the answer I gave her then. Incidents and events in day to day life have made me start wondering that maybe, just maybe, such things or such love does exist out there.

Its not that I used to look for such incidents before and couldnt find them and so I said No at the time. Its just that before she asked me that question I had never thought about the possibilities of such an occurrence.

Every week there is some or the other story about couples committing suicides because their parents or communities did not allow their marriage. These people gave up their lives because they believed they would be willing to let go of the world and this life for each other. There are stories and incidents all over the place where unconditional love makes people take extreme steps in their life. And these incidents are not just with youngsters, they happen with grown-ups as well.

But I don’t think she was talking about such high level of fanaticism/obsession when she asked me the question. I think it was more a question in normal relationships where you are so much in love, that not much matters expect that person. Where your mind and your heart are prisoners to the thoughts of that one person.

Is it unreal to expect that kind of love from someone? Or is it abnormal to love someone that much?

Ask me that question 10 different times and 9 times out of 10 my answer would come in a split second. YES its unreal, and YES its abnormal. But that one time when I might have a different answer is what is the difference between “impossible” and “remotely probable”. It defines that despite all the rationality, analytical and erratic people like me still try to expect that kind of an involved relationship. Its that 10% chance (am being analytical again) that drives people like me crazy to think that there is such a possibility.

I would love to love someone like that. Maybe I already do. But I have no idea about it. Or I don’t even know how to express it because I think too darn much. Because I am too darn analytical.

Is it really worth being so analytical and rationale?

Isnt life more beautiful and interesting when you are a little insane to be falling for someone like that? Doing crazy things because you feel like doing them. Not worried about what the world would say or who would judge them, because eventually what matters is YOUR happiness.

Or are there too many pains associated with being so close to someone?

I don’t know. I don’t claim to know the answer. But what I do know is that, there is definitely a possibility of enjoying a relationship where either or both of you is singing “agar tum mil jao, zamana chhod denge him. Tumhe pakar zamane bhar se rishta tod denge hum”

Take it from me. Its no fun to be too critical, analytical and rational. Just let yourself flow and fight it out for that kind of love.

And all those already involved in a relationship but are going through difficult times in that relationship, in-fact, even if you arnt going through difficult times, please remember:

You don’t leave alone the people you love. You fight for them.

So if you have someone you love, go out there and fight for them.